Saturday, October 27, 2012
Our little Nico has the sweetest spirit. He has his fussy times (6-8pm) and if mama eats something disagreeable to his little tummy, we all hear about it. (It's funny how farts make little ones so upset. It's also funny how amusing big farts sound coming out of such little bodies. And again, it's funny that at my age, farts are still funny. oh well...) But there is something very mellow about him that is different than Xavi.
Posted by Mary Beth Melendez at 9:46 PM
Grampa drove out here from Wisconsin (with stops to visit Julie in Colorado and Uncle Jimmy in Arizona). We got to have him here for a whole week and it was as always way too short. He helped me with a few important projects like stroller storage, rodent containment (a whole other story that I'm not ready to get into right now), auto maintenance, diaper changes, Xavi playtime, baby Nico holding, and most importantly, he brought me some of his home brew! Matter of fact, there wasn't much he didn't do! Breakfast and dinners, dishes and walks...I loved having him here. Xavi loved having him here and it breaks my heart knowing how nice it would be to live closer, see him more often, and NOT have to say good bye for so long. Here are some highlights:
|Grampa took over big truck watching duties|
|Making friends with little sweet Nico (Thanks for the shirt Julie!)|
|Xavi walking instead of riding in the stroller down to the beach (Thanks for the hoody Julie!)|
|Xavi's obsessed with his Thomas and friends trains...he lines them all up in just the right order and Grampa learned to NOT touch unless Xavi asked for helped to move them to another location...haha we've ALL learned that lesson.|
|Grampa holding Nico while mama got some much needed sleep (a 20 minute nap!)|
|Holding Grampa's hand as we walked through Costco (we went for 2 things and left with 7?)|
|"Helping" grampa set up the new stroller shed|
|Bonfire on the beach!!! That has been on my list since I moved here...Yay!|
|"Helping" grampa carve pumpkins|
|Playing with trucks and diggers on the beach|
|Sunset at San Onofre|
|Rough housing with Grampa|
|Going for a walk...at the "nude" beach (ages 2 and under only)|
|Self inflicted shot at sunset...Fun times!|
|See Grampa? They work!!! Thank you, Love you, Come back soon!!|
Posted by Mary Beth Melendez at 9:18 PM
Friday, October 19, 2012
I am happy to report that things in the Melendez family are becoming more "normal". It's almost 4 and a half weeks since little Nico joined us (outside of my body) and it's been really hard to find time to update our status. Ok, I still am finding it difficult to get ANYTHING done on any "normal" given day, including regular updates here...but I had to try and get it documented that we are doing better.
|happy days are here again|
Of course, we miss the head of our family as Papa is at "work" but we have been able to Skype regularly even with the big time difference. Xavi knows he is working and I know he misses him...but it seems as if as long as mama is constant, all is ok in the world. We've had a LOT fewer meltdowns in the last two weeks and I almost have my happy boy back.
|getting Nico's birth certificate...he"s a real boy!|
|happiest playing in the dirt|
Of course, when "we" are tired, hungry, bored, or someone "new" comes around...things get a little touchy. But he loves his brother: loves to "help" me change him, get him up from his nap when he wakes up, and demands that I bring him when we are heading out in the car. Nico stares at Xavi and follows him with his eyes the best he can and definitely knows his voice. Now the problem is that sometimes when one starts crying, the other joins in.
Of course they are sharing "chi chi" and make eye contact during that special time. I know they will be best friends and I can't wait for that. i've had friends share their own stories and photos about the bonds of brotherly love and I am so thankful. I feel like a big mama piggy while they are having this special moment but since I know that this is temporary and NOT going to last for long and that this is the best thing I can do for both of them...I am ok with feeling temporarily like a piggy.
|no caption needed|
And of course, we are thankful that we've had family and other help reach out to us during this challenging time. Xavi is still a bit wary of everyone that comes in the door but thats ok. He warms up in his own time and way. Nico is happiest in mama's arms and I'm remembering how to wear the Moby all day just in case.
|guess what we are watching...|
|BIG TRUCKS! Trash day|
|Nico Felipe and Grampa Phillip|
|Xavi wasn't the only one needing Grampa time|
Posted by Mary Beth Melendez at 10:32 PM
Monday, October 15, 2012
I have been wanting to get back to church and figured that now is as good a time as any. I just got Xavi some cute new fall clothes and to get my money's worth we needed somewhere to show them off...haha We met Debbie at her church near our house and...watched the service on TV. I got the three of us dressed, some breakfast, and out the door in time...to be early!
Posted by Mary Beth Melendez at 9:45 PM
Sunday, October 14, 2012
We said good bye to Papa last night for our first deployment, my first not his. It was a bit surreal. I've known this was coming for over a year now and we've had time apart as he did his "work up" (6 months of training before the actual deployment). Even still, when it came time to hug him for the last time and watch him walk out the gate...I was completely at a loss for words. One because if I tried to talk I would've sounded like this..."baaaah, and then...waaaaah...but....noooo"; two because it was hard to wrap my head around him leaving for SIX months, a half of a year...In baby and toddler time, that is A LOT! And in mommy time? That is FOREVER!
|Playing with best garbage truck EVER|
|Papa and Nico on the night he was born.|
|Helping out with tubby time|
|Gazing at Papa...always very calm in his arms|
|Kissing brother...such a good big brother|
|Family walk with new "Dualie" stroller...Xavi opting to walk instead of ride|
|On the beach with Papa close behind...heading to the swings|
|Proud papa...sleepy time for baby|
|Discovering YouTube videos of garbage trucks, diggers, and Thomas|
|Peek a Boo...I see you|
|"FISHIES"...at Aquarium near LegoLand|
|Getting Nico's birth certificate and doing more gazing at Papa|
|And another favorite...throwing rocks into the ocean with papa|
Posted by Mary Beth Melendez at 10:11 PM